Which leads to one of our Cardinal Rules: Never Criticize Your Stepkids??Other Parent In Front of the Kids. She may actually be a psychopathic shrew or he may indeed be an alcoholic abuser, but if you criticize those monsters where the kids can hear you, those kids will defend them?”either aloud or in their minds.

2) Wicked ex-es are not as strong as God. This is a weapon you can use for your defense and against them. If you present the best example of a selfless, loving, gentle Christian stepparent that you possibly can, your stepkids will be able to see and feel the difference in spirit between love and hate. Also, if you constantly return kindness for every time she is mean to you, you will wear her down.

These are not ?œpie in the sky??dreams. I've seen them happen in my own stepfamily and in many others. It is a Christian concept, but it?™s also fundamental nature. You are not responsible for how she acts toward you. You are only responsible for how you act ... or react ... toward her. Act in such a way that you can feel comfortable with yourself. Show those kids how a real woman handles problems?”with strength and self control!

While it is sometimes necessary to stand up to vindictive ex-es, the only approach I have ever seen to be completely effective in securing a peaceful home in relation to your ex-spouse is to reach out in love. Now, I?™m not throwing flowers around and saying everyone will get just along together. But I am saying that it?™s pretty much impossible to fight with someone who won?™t fight back.

I?™ll fall back on some sage advice which says that, ?œIf we only love our friends and hate our enemies, how are we any better than them? But I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you.??/P>

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